A fathers strength can never be denied, nor can the gentleness that is seen when your child is born!
DADS have a different way of looking at problems when they arise.
A father feels the world upon his shoulders. He is usually the bread winner. The person that comes homes to a child full of excitement and is the hero to that child. It is FUN TIME! Sorry ladies, but you know this is how it is. When a problem arises we are the ones who do not want to hear it because that means CHANGE. Change is a word that is not what we are used to and do not want to do.
It is hard for us to believe or even accept what a pediatrician or specialist is telling us. We deny that there is even an issue. Mom is looking too hard for something wrong and the doctor is crazy. Face it guys we are in SHOCK! Just as someone goes through the grieving process so do we. We are looking at this issue as a sentence, our dreams for this child are ruined and we are disappointed. It took me two years to come to my senses.
In the meantime moms are going crazy reading books on the subject, searching for answers on the internet, and reaching out for help. Of Course they have their break downs too - just when we are not around or after the shock has worn off. My wife was buried in books, always on the web and she never stopped. That was the teacher in her.
Guys we need to wake up and do what is best for our children! Look for help or to find the specialist or therapists that will help your child. Help with the appointments. It is a 24/7 job living with a child that has a disability. Your wife will appreciate the help. Look for a community support group, playgroup and an internet sight that you can trust.
NEAR YEARS RESOLUTION.....
Dads make a commitment to learn all that you can about your child and how to handle autism and sensory issues. Bring your family closer together and enjoy your children. You will find out that they are amazing.